Published: Sunday, February 10, 2013
Updated: Sunday, February 10, 2013 21:02
These can be some very tricky waters to navigate and can really alter the direction that the relationship is going, for better or for worse. In my mind, there’s a big difference between “casually seeing” someone and “not exactly official yet.” If you’re casually seeing someone, that means you’re still figuring out whether or not the relationship is going to progress to something more serious, while “not exactly official yet” means you’ve both bought into it and are pretty confident that you’re going to be a couple. Whichever of those two categories you fall into is for you to decide, but the good news is I have some advice for both.
If the relationship is still in its early stages, first few dates or casual get togethers, then I would say it’s best not to expect much this Valentine’s Day. If you wanted to get him something small, especially if it has to do with something you’ve talked about or connected on, then that would be fine. However, going overboard in the early stages of things can throw off the flow of the relationship and make him feel uncomfortable if he didn’t feel you two were at that level yet. Also, be prepared for him not to have gotten anything for you, and don’t get upset with him if that’s the case. On the other hand, if the relationship has become close to official, then you’ll probably want to get him something and he’ll probably feel the same. Once again, be careful about going overboard but try to get him something more than a box of candy. You could even talk to him about going out somewhere that night if you’re more comfortable with that then getting a gift. Who knows, maybe Valentine’s Day will be the night you two make it official.