Hook-up Culture Makes Students Reluctant To Play The Dating Game
Published: Monday, February 4, 2013
Updated: Monday, February 4, 2013 01:02
Are you looking for love? The Residence Hall Association’s Sophomore Leadership Council (SLC) is hosting the second annual Boston College Sophomore Dating Game, which is scheduled right before Valentine’s Day. The event will take place Feb. 13 in McGuinn 121.
SLC member Lauren Shook, A&S ’15, explained, "We want to get our sophomore class together while love is in the air!" Using Facebook to advertise the event, the SLC asked students to nominate friends for the opportunity to be the chosen bachelor and bachelorette. The SLC will also select three female contestants and three male contestants to participate in a traditional "The Dating Game" fashion—the bachelor and bachelorette will ask the contestants, who are hidden from view, questions, and each will choose a contestant to go out with on a date. "Our hope for this event is to come together as a class to laugh, to make some love matches, and to meet new people in our grade," said SLC member Alyssa Stern, A&S ’15.
With this event and Valentine’s Day approaching, many students have been talking about dating at BC, or maybe lack there of. As BC students, we are no strangers to conversations about the "hook-up culture." In fact, we use this buzzword so much, that it has almost become an excuse for not dating. However, despite all the talk about "hooking-up," we cannot dismiss the fact that some students on campus are dating, or at least wanting to date. "I know a lot of people talk about the BC hook-up culture, but from what I’ve seen, there are all types of relationships here on campus," said Katherine Kubak, A&S ’15. "I have friends in long-term relationships, friends starting to date casually, friends that just want a hook-up at parties, and friends who aren’t interested in any of it."
Also mentioning the hook-up culture, Alessandra Christiani, CSOM ’15, said, "I think dating at BC is hard because we are such an alcohol centered school with a hook-up culture. I feel like most people that get into a relationship end up dating someone they’ve become good friends with. Maybe they met through another friend or in class. It’s just hard to find someone at BC, so props to whomever can do it!"
This idea that it is hard to meet someone who is willing to date is frustrating for many students. "I think dating in college is really hard," said Amy Yeung, CSOM ’15. "It’s a lot riskier and scarier than it was before. Unlike in high school, we don’t have history or know that much about others here, so getting to know someone well enough to date is a difficult task, especially with how busy most of us are." Echoing this thought, Kathleen Costello, CSON ’15, added, "Nursing students rarely date in college."
Ricky Scheiber-Camoretti, A&S ’15, explained, "Dating at BC is almost as unheard of as BC winning a football game. Now that we have a new coach, hopefully that will change." And there is no reason why the BC dating culture cannot change. There seems to be a misconception on campus that dating someone is comparable to committing to marriage. Dating can be as simple as hanging out with someone and talking, or getting ice cream or pizza. It
does not mean that you have to drastically change everything about your life in order to date someone. You do not have to coordinate matching schedules, you do not have to eat every meal together, and you do not have to spend every waking moment together.
There seems to be two dominant trains of thought regarding dating at BC. The first being that if you are in a relationship, you must be attached at the hip and your entire life revolves around your girlfriend or boyfriend. The second being that dating is too much of a commitment, so hooking up with everyone you meet is a better alternative. Like Clara Dawley, A&S ’15, explained, "There is an entire middle ground on the spectrum of dating that we are not exploring."
That being said, dating in college is not for everyone. "With all the temptations that come with college, dating is only an option if it is with the right person," said Michelle Gordon, A&S ’15. "If you can trust someone equally as much as they trust you, then it is truly possible. However, a relationship cannot be forced, it has to happen naturally. As for the RHA dating game, I think that falls under forcing it, and I’d be surprised if any of the contestants make it past the first date."