She Said

This is an understandably sticky situation, and the solution will vary from person to person. Some friends you ask will always say it’s better to be bold, while others will take the more ‘hard-to-get’ subtle route. I’d have to advise something in the middle of the two extremes. If the terms of your relationship haven’t been defined at all and you’re still in the stage where you don’t fully acknowledge that you’re together, fully acknowledge that you mutually like each other, talk about being together, talk about ‘what you are,’ etc, (don’t worry, a lot of people are in this weird limbo stage), any grand romantic gestures in the spirit of Valentine’s Day are likely to freak him out. And by ‘freak him out,’ I specifically mean he’ll be forced to talk about you to his friends behind your back about how attached you are to him. While I don’t know the guy personally and he could be a romantic at heart, that’s usually how that hypothetical situation would play out for a girl (or guy) in your shoes. Let’s not personalize a mix CD or leave a trail of chocolate kisses to his bed just yet. But, if you’re looking for a way to subtly nudge your guy towards a sign that you might want something more from the relationship, this holiday could be the best way to do it. Take a more humorous, friendly approach though. Not to “Notebook” proportions. Get him a bag of his favorite candy or pick up a funny animal themed Valentine’s card with a cheesy, friendlier message inside. These small niceties aren’t anything too extreme, but they’re just a little something to let him know that you didn’t completely ignore him on this unfortunately special day that ‘couples’ and real couples seem to get dragged into.